I just want you to know that I love you with all my heart. You are such a blessing to know. You are such a beautiful young lady both inside and out. You have so much potential within you, and it's only a matter of time that you'll discover that potential and begin to maximize it. I'm very proud of you and proud to be your big sister.
I've made a personal promise to myself and to God that I will be the best big sister I can be to you; helping you grow and discover who you are, and Who's you are. That's why I'm taking this time to write you this letter.
I've been watching you very carefully and listening to the words that come out of your mouth. In watching and listening, I've discovered some disheartening habits you have that I must call your attention to. It saddens me that with all the modern technology and media outlets available today that I would have to write this letter to you and point out these things - but I realize that it may be these very technology and media outlets that's contributed to the problem I see with you.
Please, pardon me for being so frank, but sometimes a sister's gotta do what a sisters gotta do. After all, I am my sister's keeper. Let me first start by asking you...
~ Why do you wear your beautiful hair in five different shades of color?
~ Why do you mark up your body with tattoos on your neck, back, arms, legs, and even your face?
~ Why do you get all dressed up to take pictures to post online and your house is all messed up in the background?
~ Why do you let so many young men wear you down... stressing, worrying, sexing, chasing, etc.?
~ Why are you spending all of your money on superficial things like shoes, clothes, purses, etc. but you don't have a checking or savings account?
~ Why do you dress better than your babies?
~ Why are you misusing and wasting your God-given talents on people and things that will not increase you - personally, spiritually, or financially?
~ Why are you cursing and using such foul language on your Facebook, Twitter, and MySpace pages? And what's up with those provocative pictures?
~ Why do you call yourself a b^*@# and h*? Why do you allow other people to call you that?
~ Does any of these things benefit you for real?
The truth is, none of these choices you're making add value to your life. If anything, they are taking away from you, not adding to you. God does not want that for you, and neither do I. That's why I felt compelled to write this letter to you.
You possess greatness on the inside of you. So much greatness, that you have the power to change everything in your life in an instant by changing how you think of yourself. It's time for you to free yourself from the mental stronghold and prison that you are in.
Now, I do realize that some of this is not your fault. You've been influenced by so many people and situations: grandmama, mama, daddy (or lack thereof), aunties, uncles, cousins, friends, baby's daddies... you've been touched, molested, cursed at, beat on... I know exactly what happened. And then it does not help that whenever you turn on the TV you see negative role models. You're either a product of your environment, or you're mimicking what you see, and it's okay sweetheart. That's why I'm here!
I want you to know that you don't have to live the life you've chosen. I want you to know that there is another place for you to go... a place where you can escape all the issues, all the drama, all the people, all the voices, all the cries, and all the abuse. It's a place where you can tap into your "queendom" and become the best YOU that you were created to be, can be and are able to become. It's a place of joy, freedom, peace, and prosperity.
You do know what prosperity means right? It's not just having money in your pockets or being rich, but it's a place where you can flourish, thrive, and be successful in anything you set your heart and mind to. It's...umm... how do you all say it? It's "tight, da bomb, it's off da chain!"
So now you may be asking, "Well, how do I get there? How can I get to this place you're talking about?" The answer is both simple and complex all at the same time. It requires that you be willing to change, and it also requires that you woman up and be strong enough to change your life. The answer...
If you really want to change your life and get out of a poverty and gutter mentality, then you must begin to think more highly of yourself. Did you know that you are a queen? Did you know that you are fearfully and wonderfully made? Did you know that you possess the power to own a radio station, TV station, record company, hair salon, restaurant, boutique? Did you know that God has placed within you everything you need to get you out of where you are both mentally and physically?
Just by changing your thinking and realizing that you deserve better than where you are right now is the beginning of a powerful chain reaction to change. Once you discover who you are, Whose you are, and the power you possess, you will be unstoppable. Once you make this discovery, everything you once knew that made sense to you, will no longer make sense and you'll begin to seek for and strive to do better.
Please understand that in writing this letter to you I'm in no way saying my life is perfect because it's not. I've been and done things I'm not proud of in my life. However, when I learned better I began to do better, and that's what has put me in the position to write you today.
I just want the best for you, baby girl! I really do! So I want to let you in on a few secrets that will help you...
1. Today, take a moment and look at yourself in the mirror. First, look at your appearance (hair, clothes, make-up, jewelry, etc.) Second, look deep within your eyes. Just stare into your eyes.
2. While looking into your eyes tell yourself, "I am great and I am powerful beyond measure. I am bigger and better than my surroundings. I can, will, and must change my life beginning today." Say it, believe it, be it! [Be sure to say this over and over again, and do this every day.]
3. Start cleaning up. Clean up your room, your house, wherever you live. Start cleaning up. Throw away unnecessary junk and trash (things you don't use or need).
4. Clean up your Facebook, Twitter, and MySpace pages. Take off provocative pictures and delete posts where you use profanity.
5. Buy a notebook (or journal) and an ink pen, and write your dreams and goal on paper. Think BIG! Think beyond where you are. Use your imagination.
6. Go to YouTube and search the topic, "achieving your goals" and pick a video to watch. Watch one video a day, take notes, and do what you learn.
This is just a starting point. But I am confident that once you begin doing these six things, you will begin to find value in yourself. Remember, little sister, I am ALWAYS here for you!
Deaquelynn~
P.S. This is the first of many letters I'll write to you. Again, I love you girl and I am so very proud of you!
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