I’m single and I enjoy it! Yes, you read right. I enjoy being single. I desire marriage one day, but thoughts of marriage do not consume me. Instead I am using this time to draw closer to God and become a better me before God pairs me with my husband.
One of my pastors said it best when he asked, “You want Mr. or Mrs. Right, but doesn’t the right person deserve the right person?” In other words, the right person for you deserves for you to be the right person for them.
Singleness is a blessing from God. I hear so many women complain about being single. Not me! When you enjoy this time in your life, then it will make waiting easier and your life will be just as fulfilling as it would if you were married. So with that being said, here are a few tips on how to enjoy your singleness.
1. Develop a relationship with God. Make Him the number one priority in your life. Spend time with Him and allow Him to satisfy you in your singleness.
2. Develop an interdependent mindset. You are not as independent as you think you are. You depend on people more that you think you do. So, instead of saying, “I’m an independent woman,” say, “I am interdependent with God and with people.” Words are powerful.
3. Master the elements of self – self-love, self-esteem, self-worth, and self-respect. You can’t expect others to treat you the way you don’t even treat yourself. When you master the elements of self, you inadvertently teach people to love, esteem, value and respect you too. [Workbook: A Journey to Self-Love]
4. Master your “wife” skills. Learn how to cook, clean and organize your home now while you’re single. This will make it easier for you to transition into the roll when you’re married.
5. Cultivate your gifts, talents and skills. Use this time to sharpen the gifts, talents and skills God had given you, plus use them for His glory. If you can sing, sing. If you can sew, sew. If you can paint, paint. Or take classes to learn how to do certain things – play an instrument, photography, dance, etc.
6. Cultivate your relationships. Spend time with family and friends. Don’t seclude yourself from people. Enjoy the people in your life as much as you can. They are a blessing from God for you and vice versa.
7. Get out and enjoy life! Go places. Travel. Go to different restaurants, bowling, the movies, plan a trip to a new city or even to a different country.
8. Get involved with your community. Whether it through a local school, shelter, or even through your church, serving others is one of the most fulfilling experiences you’ll ever have. Not only that, but it trains you to be able to serve your future husband and children too.
9. Make yourself pretty. When you look good you’ll feel good. Dress up before you go places. Even look nice if you’re just lounging around the house. You never know who’ll show up.
10. Become an overall asset. You need to be an asset before you get married for YOU, not for a husband. So work on becoming an asset in all areas of your life – spiritually, physically, emotionally, socially, and financially.
There are a lot more ways you can enjoy your singleness, but I thought these were great focal points to get you started. I suggest that you pick one on the list and work on that for a while. The truth is, when you do one the others will fall in alignment. There’s something about taking one step towards change that makes everything else in your life change.
Remember above all, happiness is a choice. You don’t have to be miserably single. You can enjoy your singleness and be as happy as you make up your mind to be.
Deaquelynn~
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